But that’s not my point. My point is this: we can love someone unlike ourselves. And we can receive love from someone unlike ourselves.
In the beginning, God said, "Let us make man in our image…” Notice the us in the words. That’s Trinity understanding right there, the concept of the Persons of the Deity.
So we see plurality within unity in the trinity. God intended relationships to reflect both those values at the same time. When we expect a marriage to be harmonious – both agreeing always– we lose the image of God’s plan for marriage.
Marriage reflects God’s view of relationship. Even when we come to God, we don’t meld with him like the Borg idea. We retain our individuality, because that’s God’s image of relationship. We are changed by his presence, but we don’t disappear.
We learn how to love when we are different. We can love something unlike ourselves – and shout. Whether physical/spiritual, male/female, leader/follower, organized/scattered… we can love and be loved by others unlike ourselves. We need to learn and understand that. Love isn’t based on harmony but on the choice to love.
God saw all that he had made, and it was very good.
 Gen. 1:26